You never know what kind of sacrifices a person has to make to lead the semblance of a “normal” life.
Here at Chilled Chicks we have had this conversation too many times to count. One never knows glancing at another in passing, what their inner battles might be. Some people suffer in silence with depression and anxiety. The very thought of pulling it together to show face can be overwhelming and exhausting. There are no words for the sheer energy expelled to lift yourhead off the pillow and put on the false face of normalcy.
Then there are the growing number that we are struggling with; chronic pain, FMS and a host of other physically debilitating, misdiagnosed ailments. Your head and your heart want to get out there, connect, socialize, celebrate, create or just be able to do the day to day mundane things that need to be done.Here’s the price that you know you might pay though and it’s pretty steep. You have to knowingly choose to live a life knowing that one day of shopping, running around and a dinner will undoubtedly lead to the following day feeling like you need to be in traction and that with every beat of your heart, the pain marches to a more chaotic beat. It may also leave you sweating, grunting and breathless.
Whatever your struggles, do you stop living or do you push your way through knowing that you’ll feel like you’ve been kicked in the ass the next day? Some things are worth giving yourself permission to live in the moment. Get up and go out, have some fun, let your loved one take you to supper or a show, knowing that thenext day you may be on your on the couch. Honor yourself in as many ways as you can.
Give yourself permission to chill your ass out the next day with no regrets. Inform your tribe that they need to pick up some slack and show some understanding. Share your pain, accept help, take a stand for your own wellbeing and most of all – Give yourself permission to live well and have fun.
We were chatting the other night about how much all the images on social media are downright depressing. Please don’t get me wrong. Our world has all sorts of ills – violence, warfare, atrocities a, poverty, etc and we need should be informed. But, does the constant onslaught of negative images, perpetuate the problems? What if we chose to look beneath the surface to focus on the untarnished foundation; Mama Earth
Bear with me here, but I watched Tomorrowland a few days ago and something the villain said stuck with me. We gobble up the negative images of doom and feed them with our attention. As we know anything that gets fed a steady diet of empty calories will grow and grow! Most of the ugly imagery that bombards us are essentially due to humans. We neglect the wonder and magic of our environment and existence. Like a mother maybe neglected; we forget that she is a beautiful, loving, and extremely sensual female at her core.
.Mama Nature is a Real Babe! Oh yeah she is! From the tips and peaks of her gorgeous mountains to depths of her flowing seas. Generous, bountiful, and deeply sensual, she in the embodiment of beauty. Wise, and wonderful, vengeful and intense, lighthearted and playful this female has everything anyone could want in a planet. It goes without saying that we she has earned our deepest respect. She is sexy as hell, and her beauty is unmatched . Let’s face it she’s the greatest potential porn star of all time!
I can relate her on a deep level, as a woman and a mother. I’ve heard her heartbeat and I know that she lives, breathes and feels. I also feel that the way women are currently being treated and her struggle are one in the same. After all aren’t we both divinely female? I imagine that when we decide to truly honor either our human females or our Mama Earth, that both will thrive, and we will turn the page on the current Age of Destruction. The Feminine is about birthing the new, nurturing and evolution.
The Age of the Divine Feminine is here we’re told. Perhaps the last throes of resistance is the explanation for the rise in violence against women and our Mama Earth. Just as women everywhere are waking up to their power, so is Mama Earth gathering her strength. Global warming is our poor interpretation of the fire in her breast and is really a sign of how thoroughly pissed off she is. I would imagine that if she was incarnate as human she’d be thinking of a divorce from the human race, a new wardrobe and hairstyle. Not to be facetious but, ladies you know that when we cut our hair – Look out! There’s some thunder & lightning coming on the horizon and we’re about to shake things up!! If Mama aint’ Happy, no one is gonna be, and she’s pissed! I bet you often find yourself feeling angrier too.
She’s a beautiful woman and deserves to be treated as such; her wardrobe is stunning, she always has an incredible presence, her creative skills are flawless and she radiates wisdom. Our Mama Earth is an independent woman who is fierce! She represents us as we do her. Love her and you Love yourself. Let’s feed her fire. She every woman, she is spectacular, and she is stunning!
Can we talk about “surrender” for a moment? I consider myself to be an upward thinking, fairly free spirited individual. Yet, time and time again the issue of surrender rears its head. I confess that I’m one of those people who consults my cards when I’m looking for a word of guidance from my guardian angels. Often they remind me to “surrender” and frankly, sometimes I just don’t know what that means.
While just letting things happen may seem like a chill way of life, it’s not one that I’m personally able to incorporate completely. Whether due to a lack of faith or an overabundance of pragmatism, I find it hard to sit on my ass and let the chips fall where they may, or to run with my spirit and just create artwork all day. Not to mention that our corporate run world doesn’t seem to have gotten that memo. “In order to grow a business I’m required to be present all the time. Blog posts, graphics, production and bills are something that have to be attended to daily. If I let the chips fall where they may I’ll lose any opportunity to create a prosperous life.”
Or is that true? Recently, due to events that are far beyond our control, I felt that I had no choice but to surrender. Why and what did that mean? When 100 percent of your efforts fail to produce 50% of your needs – it’s time to surrender. To me that meant that I would let go of expectations and things that were out of my control, work on what I could, and make time for things that make my heart sing.
I still made the effort to complete my projects and maintain the essentials, but I let go of the outcome. It dawned on me that once I had done the best I could do with the finest of intentions, I was no longer responsible for the outcome. I couldn’t control the health of one partner nor the disinterest of another. I couldn’t control the economy, the teachers dwindling budgets nor maintain hold of something that was becoming more and more obvious that it wasn’t meant to be (at least in it’s current form).
Surrender also means listening to your body and giving it what it needs to be healthy this also includes feeding your mind and your heart. While things don’t always turn out the way you’d like, if you engage in the practice of surrender, they may turn out better and you may find more happiness. It can be hard as hell to do though. All our lives we’re taught to strive more and you will mountains. Success, prosperity and abundance are one and the same. Illnesses, finances, life circumstances may beg to differ. You still have to work, but often not as hard as you think to achieve the peace you want.
Ironically, surrendering may require using great discipline! You have to diligently monitor your train of thought and actions. When the thought pops into your heads that you need to or can control everything that is happening to you or around you, that’s when you have to allow ( force) yourself to let that shit go!
Ask yourself realistically:
1. What were my intentions? Did I do the best that I could with the information and skills I had at the time? Did I act honorably and with integrity?
2. Could I truly have prevented this from happening? Are/were these events beyond my control?
3. What have I learned from the experience? How will I use what I learned in future situations?
4. What can I incorporate in my life to give myself moments of “surrender”? eg. Nature walks, meditation, deep breathing exercise, reading, exploring new hobbies, being creative – journaling, art, music, socializing, etc
5.What can I eliminate to make room for more moments of Surrender?
eg. any business calls or emails after 7pm, social media immersion after you get home, ditch the cell for a walk or me time activities, turn the tv off, fast food meals (take time to digest your meal), etc.
Let’s be real, the world isn’t suddenly going to do an about face, and if we want to get more out of our lives we have to identify what gives meaning to it and focus on those things however, whenever and where ever we can.
I love my business partners very much but we had to surrender to the fact that for different reasons we weren’t able to donate our time to grow our business. Kim is still working hard at establishing a new life and focusing on getting her health back after a couple of years of extremely trying experiences and Brandi has decided that she no longer wants to pursue this dream of ours for now.
I’ve been creating and using art to illuminate the deeper recesses of my Spirit, maintaining the basic social media functions of Chilled Chicks, working on getting my physical body healthy and my emotional system balanced. A few commissions have been coming my way for jewelry pieces, a new website has been birthed, another is being re-designed, and long needed renos are being completed. In surrendering, I’m finding myself in a healthier place of self-love and things are still getting done.
Plans are on hold for this year until we know what’s happening and we see where Spirit leads us. One thing that I’ve learned is that it is much more pleasant and a lot easier if you voluntarily make the decision to surrender. Spirit has a way of making you surrender. Better to do it while you’re standing, before you find yourself doing it on your knees.
You are Beautiful.
There are so many messages about Beauty bombarding us daily. We feel quite simply that it comes from the inside. Being authentic, confident, honest, enjoying the simple pleasures laughing, leading a healthy existence; physical, emotional and spiritual – all those are elements of self love. When you love yourself; not on a superficial level, but truly love the person you are inside – you will glow with a the light of real Beauty. Celebrate your self every day. Use the phrase “I am Beautiful” as a daily mantra. International Women’s Day is every day!
In the past nine months, to say that we’ve been through changes would be a gross understatement. It has been a trying time for the tribe.- recession based financial losses, health and family issues have deeply affected all os us in 2015. We’ve cried a lot between us, lost one of our sisters and still managed to have a few laughs along the way. We realized that we were falling into a trap of doing the exact opposite of our mission. We were not taking the time for self-care, we were worrying about circumstances that we couldn’t change and we were running far ahead of our capacity.
So we we’re taking a leisurely step back and focusing on getting healthy, developing an epic emporium of goods and working on spirit altering events and workshops. Along the way we’ll be sharing pics and blogging about our experiences – good and otherwise. A lot of groups encourage personal development and spiritual growth through complete and absolute positive focus. The reality is that our life journey are made up of both positive and negative experiences and everything in bwtween. It is through sharing our stories that we lend strength to others by letting them know that we understand.
While we can share our experiences and talents with our tribe, it is in the exchange of energies that we learn and evolve. So, Cheers! Let’s have a toast to the next leg of our journeys and take this opportunity to support each other by keeping it real through the good, the bad, the heartbreaking and the wonderfully outlandish things that life throws at us.